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Originally Posted by Doglover6335
Someone please help me know what to do...This argument was so stupid and I may have just lost my husband forever because of it.
We were watching a TV show, and in the show a male character was sleeping in a hotel bed with a woman that was not his wife and I mentioned something like “wow, I hate that every male character has to cheat”. Well, my husband replied with “thats not cheating” and I kind of freaked out a bit and asked him how that’s not cheating (I have been cheated on in the past by a man that’s not him so I have a little bit of past trauma when it comes to cheating) and kept questioning him about it to the point where I was getting so frustrated I started crying. Well, that was a last resort for him I guess; he said “I can’t believe you would insinuate that I would cheat” and walked out the door, saying he can’t deal with me anymore.
I’m so upset i want to die. I don’t know if he’s leaving me forever, and if I’ve ruined everything over a stupid tv show. If someone has any advice for what I could say or do to fix this, it’d be much appreciated. Also I’m so sorry if none of this made sense; I’m going crazy right now.
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I just lost my whole family over something seemingly as trivial. It doesn’t matter the catalyst, the underlying issue is way deeper.
First of all, if he doesn’t consider cheating sleeping in a bed with another woman, his core values are problematic for you, so that’s the bottom line. You weren’t wrong in the least in your feelings and expression here. You hit a nerve and he ‘doth protest too much’.