Don't take medication for him. Take it for you. And before you do, DO YOUR RESEARCH. I have considered it in the past because I have awful anxiety, too, but I haven't tried it, yet. I want to form habits, hobbies, and relationships that reduce my anxiety instead of relying on pills. I'm sure they help, but that's just my 2 cents.

Also, it seems like a red flag to me that he would get up and leave after one argument. I know it sounds like he's struggling dealing with your anxiety in the past, but if you've been together for 3+ years he should already be aware.

Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise? You can take the time you have apart to find what makes you a strong individual. It sounds like there's lost of past trauma and self-esteem issues. I hope you can take the time for self-care and do the things YOU want to do. You wanting to take medication so that you'll act "normal" around your husband isn't a good reason to do it. You should want to take care of yourself FOR yourself, because you're worth it!

I'm the same way, too. i'm ALWAYS worried if my actions will affect others, or if they're approve of me or whatever. It's not healthy, and we have to learn how to think for ourselves.