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Originally Posted by CrystalGirlx
That is spot on. When I tried to encourage my ex and help him through difficult issues the conversation ultimately turned to how I caused his misfortune and how I needed to improve in order for it to stop. It wasn't merely negative thinking. Job loss, money issues, even him losing a bid out on a house we're all my fault.
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It's about shifting of responsibilities. I would make suggestions to my toxic family member trying to help her solve her own problems, but she kept giving me excuses as to why each and every one of my suggestions would not work. I eventually figured it out that she wanted me to
do things for her, rather than have me help her with helping herself.
I stopped walking around in the same circle with her, and now I feel less dizzy.