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Originally Posted by ennie
It's about shifting of responsibilities. I would make suggestions to my toxic family member trying to help her solve her own problems, but she kept giving me excuses as to why each and every one of my suggestions would not work. I eventually figured it out that she wanted me to do things for her, rather than have me help her with helping herself.
I stopped walking around in the same circle with her, and now I feel less dizzy.  |
I tried to be supportive to my ex. Every single time I tried to help or show interest in what he was doing I was pushed away. I fell pregnant, and we were going to move into together again so I was looking at houses with him. Then, he started claiming the child wasn't his, starting fights, so I said I was no longer interested and didn't wish to be involved. It got to a point where he was saying it was my fault he wasn't bidding on houses fast enough because his "judgment" was always clouded because of me. He recently bid on a house and was outbidded. This was my fault because if I didn't stress him out he would have bidded accordingly.
I eventually just said screw this. Take control of your own life, you're 54 years old. Of course, he came up with some excuse as to why it was my fault and how dare I say that.
I have stayed no contact and my life is a lot less stress ridden. Any contact is relating to property exchange. I leave out all emotion.