i had to cut ties with my dad (abuser). it was just too hard to live each day with the weight over me about what might happen, would i have to make an appearance, where will he show up and bug me, how many strings are attached to everything...
i am doing better having made that descision. He is "very hurt" by it... but ya know - he can never be as hurt as he hurt me... even though he can't possibly understand that.

you do what you gotta do.