yeah the whole things is really confusing.... i am wondering what the real issues are underneath all this

that whole "don't do it here again" thing.... i would be surprised if that was the first time that had happened (lord knows i've thought of it before). and the anger reaction is way blown up.... anger is always fear, right? so what was it that he was afraid of? that you had really seriously hurt yourself? that it reminded him of someone else who may have done that and didn't fair as well?
this hippo thing - was that an out? why talk "contracts" in a crisis?!
something's missing. sadly, you may never get to know. it is just so sad because this is a totally different picture (that we are getting) from the person we saw before - of him. Hard to reconcile those two images.
best to you!!!!

Kiya