I don't think that advice about trying to talk to her husband and get him to "see" her side or reason with her is good advice.

This man is abusive. You cannot reason with an abusive person.

He will continue to treat her like crap, he will continue to be mean, he will continue to be passive aggressive and ignore her, no matter what nice things she does for him, and he will continue to throw tantrums and threaten divorce.

He is trying to control her, as all abusers DO.

And she will continue to internalize all of his blame that SHE is the problem, when HE is the problem. She will continue to only feel bad about herself and insecure with this man. This is an extremely toxic and unhealthy situation.

She needs to end the marriage, in my opinion. And I am very experienced in abusive relationships. Abuse statistically worsens over time.

I read on another thread of the OP's that he told her he was only marrying her to please his parents. That is another huge red flag.

She should be the one filing for divorce at this point.

Doglover, I hope you are hanging in there. Please update us soon.