luvyrself - I have a different understanding of co-dependence. When I hear the word two things come to mind. One is the nature of an abusive relationship where the abuser makes the victim dependent upon them. The second that comes to mind is the relationship between a substance abuser and their spouse or partner. I think then of the partner covering up for the addict, alcohol or otherwise, and so on. They have thus become a co-dependent to their partner's problems. Alanon is a 12 step program and support network for such folks too.