You have to do things for your partner that makes them feel loved. So it would be their language (not yours) and they would reciprocate meeting your needs using your language. Of course within reason. I mean if your partner likes gifts it doesn’t mean you must buy lavish gifts every week or quality time doesn’t mean quit your job and be wuth your partner 24/7. Exercise some logic and reason.

No I absolutely don’t believe in just accepting that you’ll never be loved the way you want to. It builds resentment and it’s miserable existence.

Of course it all has to be within common sense constraints, not everything could be done. Compromise and communication is a key