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I just don't get what is in it for me to continue this thought pattern when I know it is not accurate.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Sounds like what is in it for you is to protect yourself from getting too close and then being rejected and hurt. That's why you are doing it. It's OK. Chances are you learned this many years ago and had it reinforced for a long time. Now you are in therapy and can work on unlearning it. It takes a lot of time!

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One of those subliminal ego states is making me do it :-)

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Yes, most certainly! One of mine gets me in a tizzy with his warped thinking. Sometimes I do an "end run" around him, by listening deep for my true feelings and following those, not listening to his inaccurate thoughts. It always helps me to go to the feelings, because they are true, and ignore the skewed thoughts.