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Originally Posted by ennie
When I feel guilty about not trusting someone who may be sincere, I feel almost rushed to trust.
And when I rush to trust, I start to ruminate on my doubts about this person (ex. "What if she leaks the information I shared with her in confidence?").
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I feel guilty too when I find myself looking for reasons not to trust someone, when in reality they haven't done anything but be nice... I think part of this comes from having trusted people too soon in the past. I didn't have clear boundaries and I used to feel inferior to everyone... So if someone was being manipulative or acting unfairly in some way, I would just rationalize their behavior and accept it. Now I feel like if someone is being nice it's because they want something in return...
What you said about remaining neutral about people who you don't know too well gave me some insight. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience.