Good Evening Mr. Bill and everyone else.

Be aware that people's love language(s) can tend to shift a bit over time, or situationally. But the bases tend to stay the same> F.e.; my fiance's main need is specific and intense acknowledgement -- which can take the form of TOUCH (the usual) or simply Concentrated Attention.
He gets nuts when he feels I'm not telling him something, and by nuts I mean unhappy and anxious and PTSD-triggered. He feels abandoned.

My basic need is also Acknowledgement -- but via respect for my privacy and boundaries. I tend to feel invaded and "DEMANDED" when he wants to be physically close and I'm going thru shiz and can't deal w/his need for attention. I withdraw when overwhelmed (Aspie Lite)

We have a pretty good T.

Thank all Dieities!

We've also known each other for decades, and knew about each other's preferred Love languages/Acknowledgements before we ever got together.

Upshot is, sometimes one of us has to be the more sensitive and giving -- and sometimes the other. And sometimes we just both have to back WAY TF off because we've got our feelings spread ten feet around us and there's no way to approach without stepping on something. lol and ~sigh~

I doubt we're unique. Weird, yes; unique, no.

Hugs

xo

Chyia, love is easy; living it is hard