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Originally Posted by seesaw
I couldn't agree more. Implying or calling the OP selfish when/if they are suicidal is extremely invalidating to HER feelings. Quite often the person who is suicidal has never had anyone validate them or how they feel, and blaming them or judging them for feeling suicidal and being depressed (which is what is happening when someone calls them selfish) is neither supportive nor helpful.
I would guess the OP came here for support. Not opinions on how others feel about suicide.
OP, I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I know how it feels to feel hopeless and at the end of the rope. I am terrible at relationship advice, but it does sound like you would benefit from professional help. Please seek some.
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Can we agree to disagree? I actually have felt like OP, and I have been through the emotions she is going through. I don't want to seem like I am judging OP, and I suppose I am. Okay, I am. But I don't know how else to convey that the biggest obstacle OP is facing is herself. When I was seeking help for my abusive relationship, posts that were warm and fuzzy, and that just let me rant and say "oh I am so sorry" didn't help me in the long run. I kept hiding from the judging comments seeking these posts until I had exhausted every chat board and friend who would listen. The posts that really ended up hurting the most were the ones that told me eventually it is your fault because you choose to stay. You don't walk away. But, it was something that I needed to hear.
OP. I sympathize with how difficult these feelings are. You NEED professional help, and you should not be in a relationship without first seeking it. You have had a pattern of toxic relationships due to your depression, and the more and more toxic relationships you have the more it is going to feed into your depression. This does not make you bad, it does not make you worthless, it makes you someone that needs help. You DESERVE help. You are no different than anyone else.