I know some guys might like that sort of thing but honestly, that would have freaked me out when I was going through this stuff, my wife actually offered to try this sort of thing and my first partner just did it but in both cases I just felt guiltier that they were having to do this for me.

What helped me most in a subsequent relationship, after a lot of counselling/therapy, was tantra and taking things really slow, getting used to being touched (which took a lot of work and still does) and my own sexual needs and learning how to retuning into my partner's.