Una, is your first paragraph being directed at me specifically? I have stated in a thread or two that I have a lot of experience in abusive relationships, and I give advice based on my experience and also based on what I’ve read from numerous expert articles and books from psychologists on the subject. If it is directed at me specifically, I was asking admin for clarification on community guidelines, not for feedback from members on my posts, though of course I’m open to hearing it if I ask for that. And if that wasn’t directed at me specifically then I have misunderstood your post because you also mention yourself in the second paragraph.