You are in a tough spot! I'm bipolar and been with my wife 23 years .There was a point where it got really bad and i was very sick What was hard on my wife is she didn't know how to help and maybe I didn't wont help .I was mad at everyone I hated being bipolar .It took me some time to understand that it just was not me who was in pain but my wife having to go though this with me .We didn't have to get sep. CYS came in and removed me from my house because I stop taking my meds and couldn't be around my kids .I went to a doctor and got on meds again but most of all with treatment I was able to get control of my bipolar again i have a far better understanding of my illness and how to deal with it now .

They say that bipolar tends to get very bad in your late 20's to early 30's which was my case and many others I know .You husband needs help If he not on meds and seeing a doctor yet thats your first step.A good Doctor and the right meds get make a big different but becareful most guys don't like taking meds. they think it makes them weak and some meds. are a turn off . they make tired - feel like crap - gain weight-And the biggy sexual problems. But there is hope a meds that wont do that .(thank god ).Next a good T they are hard to find but can help how he understands him self and how others are also hurting do to his bipolar.