Seriously! I remember being in the hospital when the lactation clinician came around and asked why I wasn't breastfeeding. I kind of scowled and said that all that had been severed due to my own reduction surgery. It must have been baby #2, I was so fed up with nurses after baby #1, for 1)refusing to come grab him like they said they would if I needed him to go to the nursery and 2) for huffing and puffing at the thought of my husband staying in the room with me with baby #1.
I became a "just shove off" type after dealing with my first borns collick the lack of real support after all those platitudes. I'm sure there's many other things that hardened that side of me somewhere along the way.