(((Kdragonsong)))

Not sure what to say here.

I've been through realationships like this. It took me alot of soul searching to find out what was right for me. And I still don't have it down to a tee and know I never will.

I'd try to do some self exploration. Security is nice but I don't think you should stay in it just to feel secure. I totally know about the strong family thing too - it attracted me and kept me in a non-beneficial relationship for 4 years. In the end, I think it comes down to self love.
If you love yourself first, then you use less crutches to get through life in my opinion.

I think you should really analyze what you can an cannot live with. Do the benefits outweigh the negative? If you have to, sit down and list all the pros & cons of staying & going. I've done it and while did not ultimately determine my final decision, it at least shed some light and kinda put it in perspective.

Good luck though. I totally know these things are difficult!

Take Care!