I know crushes while married can be normal, as long as you don’t act on it (and I’d never cross that line), but BPD crushes are awful and obsessive and I’m not over mine for someone that I met on an online game nearly a year ago. Someone who has quit the game. I don’t even know what this person looks like lol. It’s on and off (the crush), but I think I just need to avoid the game so I’m not reminded of him. It’s very silly and not rational, I hate crushes!