Feb 25, 2019 at 05:30 AM
I can handle the erotic transference that comes about when a different part is in the drivers seat. What kills me the most is the need and desire to be cared by him like he is my father and I am a young child. That is the most aching feeling and it makes me grieve so intensely. To me that is shameful as I am at least 15 years older than him.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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