I did see a young couple today where the woman was wearing jeans and jeans jacket and the guy was wearing spangled tights!!! They looked so happy hand in hand. Sorry, but that seems like the world I would like to live in - freedom for both genders to choose to act tough or to act soft. Like the 60's but more real this time.

I did live in that kind of world for a short while in my twenties, but those people coupled up had kids and fell into the routines of school and commuting. Now most of my male contemporaries are hugely overweight and drink themselves silly all the time.

I really would like to be valued by men for some personal characteristics: courage, integrity, innovativeness, humour, caring, laughter... to do creative things together. I want to find joy in gendered relationships?

funny movies, keeping fit and watching cooking shows together sounds like a good start Zapatoes!!!