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Originally Posted by Laure
Hello
I signed up here because it appears like the best place to ask this. I just wanted some thoughts please if I've done anything wrong. The other day I was at home doing not much and we have had trades-men working on the walls inside the house for a few days because of some damage we had
Basically I'm sure I'm like most women and when I am at home I don't wear a bra. Well my mom arrived home and saw I was not wearing a one under my shirt. I never do when I'm at home coz they're not comfortable but my mom got angry at me and said it was unacceptable for me to be braless when trades-men are here working.
I'd like to know if my mom ova-reacting? I'm not very big up top. And I was wearing a top but just no bra under. So I don't see the problem. Even tho i don't have big boobs, i guess you could say my nipples are not exactly small but Is this a reason why I should wear a bra if anyone is here?
Pretty much my mom said it looks really bad and its not acceptable when trades men are here. Is she ova-reacting?
She used a few words I wont repeat here but they hurt me
Thank you
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It is PERFECTLY acceptable to go without a bra any time you like!!! I hate wearing a bra...they are awkward and uncomfortable but I was raised like you...that I HAD to wear one by a certain age.
Here's what I think is happening...your mother has bought into partriarchal ideas that girls and women (I don't know how old you are) are sexual creatures no matter what. Therefore, our chests and breasts are sexualized too and must be covered up with a bra. I am assuming that's what your mother was told when she was growing up. You have a right to bodily autonomy which means that if you don't want to wear a bra you don't have to. I take mine off and soon as I get home. A maintenance guy had to come and do some work in my home and I didn't bother to put bra on before he arrived. I just made sure that my top wasn't too thin...because I wouldn't want him to see anything. And that's just me. Each to their own! I also have started going out sometimes without a bra because I think it's healthier...I mean its a band of tight fabric across our ribs...fun times!
If your mother was shaming you and calling you names, that is verbal abuse and not okay. How do you folks get along in general?
Would you mind sharing how old you are? Just so i know the dynamic with your mother. Perhaps I could give you a tip on how to talk it over with her. I would not recommend showing her my post above...it likely won't go over well.
