I don't know, I really don't know but I like Unaluna's take - they can't all be that attractive, right?
If you were the child of a narcissist, google echoism. Among other things that ring true for me, there's something about being stuck in an unrequited love situation/pattern. I keep thinking about breaking patterns that become stuck or changing the script. Some say that you have to re-experience the pain before change can happen, I don't know that I agree.
But yeah, talk and chip away.