soliaree, you have had a hard time with your T recently. I don't understand what it's all about and I hope you can talk to him today and get greater clarity.

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I dumped him after he did all of that @#$@

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I was struck by your comments about his anger. He got angry at you and now you are dumping him. Clearly, he has something going on, but I also think to my own relationship with my T and how I consider it to be mutualistic (that is a principle of his therapeutic approach--client-centered, humanistic psych, etc.). There is give and take, sharing, self-disclosure, etc. And there have been a couple of times I expressed anger about something to T and he was very accepting and told me it was OK to be angry at him (or at something else in his presence). He accepted that part of me and didn't reject me because of it--because I was too unpleasant or demanding or *****y or unreasonable or whatever. I really appreciate his acceptance. In a mutualistic, therapeutic relationship, what is the client response if the T gets angry? If it were me, would I accept his anger, and not reject him for having those feelings? I think I would. And he has been a little angry at me before and it was not a problem for us.

I'm really just musing here, I know your situation is not mine, Soliaree. It just struck me that you were rejecting your T because he displayed anger, but yet the client is supposed to be accepted for expressing anger. I know it isn't a completely equal relationship, but I'm just struggling with something there. In a mutualistic relationship, how accepting would I be?