Thinks to self: "hum, this is Doc John's perception, and this is my perception... don't polarise… try to see whether I can listen without giving up the subtlety of what I started the thread off by saying. Yet I feel that Doc John has not really attended to what I was really saying - just would like me to act differently. I'm finding it difficult to hold onto what I started this thread by saying, because it feels like I'm already over-ruled. So be it... anyways...
When I lived in social housing, I couldn't afford to be too sensitive, I couldn't afford a hyper-sensitive place of any kind. Now I live somewhere safe, I have a range - in my consciousness, I'm living a range from rough people and environments to delicate people and environments - not quite knowing where I will end up, more a constant back and forth.. I refuse to reject people for being rough round the edges because for me that has been a question of social class and opportunity.
YET I hear you saying that I should PAY ATTENTION to where someone is on their journey, and I feel that you are correct in that. I have sometimes said to myself, "you are older and should have more patience" for example.
My message to myself following your valuable comment is to PAY ATTENTION before pinging the post button.
I am grateful for your thought-provoking reply, and hope that I have listened correctly to you!?