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Originally Posted by nottrustin
Good question.
For me, I keep reminding myself that the things I regret are things I handled to the best of my ability at the time. There's nothing I can do to change what happened in the past. I can, however, learn from it and hopefully grow. It 7s really hard though.
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My dad said something similar once, and it's always stuck with me.
I asked him (when he was 42 and I was 7) if he had any regrets. I assumed the answer would be yes because 42 seemed ancient to me. But he told me no. He said when he was 7 he was doing the best his 7-year-old self could do, that at 42 he was doing the best his 42-year-old self could do, and that when he was 80, he'd do the best his 80-year-old self could do.
We do our best in a given moment. We cobble together our knowledge, emotional resources, support system and do the best we can at the time. Don't hold what you didn't have or know in the past against your present self.