Hi everyone. Update.

I was really, really stupid and spent a few days believing that everything was back to normal and okay. My husband never apologized for what he did but told me he forgave me for overreacting and that he was not leaving me, and I was so stupid and relieved to have him around and someone to talk to that I didn’t mention anything he did and welcomed him with open arms. We spent the last three days having a great time and really enjoying each other and everything felt like it was perfect. And then tonight all hell broke loose again and he’s threatening to leave me again.

So, for background, I don’t have a drivers license. I have extreme anxiety and am just now at the point where I’m starting to get comfortable behind the wheel and thinking of finally getting my license. My husband knew this when he married me and when we were dating he always dropped me off and picked me up from work if he was free to (if he was not than my parents always would) Well today he had a bad day at work and came to pick me up afterwards since I get off later. When I got in the car he asked if I’d make dinner when we got home and I said of course (I’m not the greatest cook but I can make simple things). By the time we got home he said “Never mind, I’ll cook” and I said why, I’m happy to make something for you, and he kept insisting to just forget it, he’ll cook. Well, after he ate, he told me he had something to tell me. I said what, and he told me he is extremely resentful towards me because I do nothing for him. I don’t cook, I don’t drive, and I never clean (which is not true; I clean a lot). He said it’s only a matter of time till the resentment gets to be more than he can take because all I do is take and never give. I got really upset at this and started crying, and he said “See, you obviously haven’t learned from last time. So I guess I will be leaving on Monday. I can’t be around you anymore”

He said a lot of truly hurtful things, including that he feels I’m a child, that I’m not worth his time, and that he’s wasted 3 years of his life on me. I feel so broken and worthless.