I once had a T who gave me gifts and money. I had a pattern where men would try to give me money, jobs, and other things and go out of their way to do things for me. While outside of therapy, I didn't accept things, T taught me how to accept gifts and care. He was unorthodox in other ways too but had a safe and genuine way of working.

I see a big difference with an unorthodox but competent T and an incompetent T who has bad boundaries, likely acting in ways to get their own needs met. I know there are grey areas but am surprised no one has made the distinguishment.

Interesting topic.