I think you already know that your husband is verbally abusing you. You don't have to curse someone out or call them names to be emotionally unhealthy for them. You husband sounds unhappy with the relationship, and unable to maturely put this into words so he is emotionally manipulating you and playing mind games.

Do you have family or friends you can stay with? You say your husband is your ride to work. My biggest fear is that he is going to just up and leave you without a ride to work. Did all of this behavior come on within the last several months, or has he always behaved like this?

Also, please don't buy into his BS about you not doing anything. My ex did the same things to me. Every time I tried to help him he ridiculed how I did it so I eventually just stopped doing it. He would get super super super nasty to me and say "i have a girl who thinks doing the dishes is enough".