The important thing to understand about this dysfunctional way your husband is behaving Doglover is that it can have a negative long term affect on you that can affect the way you think about yourself. You seriously don't want to develop negative tapes in your mind and you have already begun to believe that his being unhappy is all your fault. You are still very young yet Doglover and you have already been in a relationship with this guy for too long where he has gained too much control over you. Also, he KNOWS you are dependent on him and he is chosing to use that against you whereas a healthier partner would be way more supportive when it comes to your gaining on your sense of ability and independence.

You never answer the question of do you have parents that can help you either. Can you talk about your parents?