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Originally Posted by Doglover6335
I do have parents that could help me, but I am afraid they will mock me for it. I don’t want to be the family joke that’s judged by everyone for having a ruined marriage already. They told me not to get married if I was not serious and sure this was what I wanted, and now I know they will see this as me giving up.
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You are assuming though Doglover, that's a very unhelpful mindset for you to have. If you have a family that you can turn to, that's always a plus in that you have someplace to go when you are in a bad situation that is unhealthy for you. You are only 23 years old, so you made a mistake with this relationship, it's clear you just did not know NORMAL for your age in that you simply don't have the life skills YET to know better. Remember, a lot of the people posting to you ARE sharing their own personal experiences, I didn't have that when I was your age, I can definitely look back and see the red flags I missed where I chose to stay instead of ending the relationship that continued to expose me to a lot of unhealthy experiences that were very unhealthy for me. Honestly, often the bravest wisest thing to do is in fact, end it and walk away.
You are in an abusive unhealthy relationship, at this point your partner is no interesting in changing his behavior either, he is instead continuing his pattern of abuse. There is nothing to mock you about if you recognize that and choose to walk away from this relationship and see where your own weaknesses are an instead choose to focus more on yourself now where you can become a more "indepedent" person.