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Originally Posted by Doglover6335
Wow, my husband does the same thing your ex did. Every time I do try to cook or clean he takes over and says I’m “doing it wrong” and gets mad that I can’t do one simple thing.
He Has been like this for a long time. He told me once that he thinks he has BPD, but he’s never done anything about it. I’ve begged him to go to therapy but he won’t. I’m worried about getting to work too and afraid I may have to quit my job eventually.
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Some people either get treated and acknowledge they have a problem, or just don't. My fiance showed signs of bi polar disorder, along with narcissism. I stayed for three years encouraging him to seek treatment. Meanwhile, he forced me off my medication through mind games and verbal abuse(he would randomly go "sniff sniff" implying he thought I looked high and snorted coke, or he would refuse to talk to me and say I looked "drugged out"). He slowly ate away at my self identity and worth until I was pretty much just a hot mess. Then it became a very dangerous game of "I am fine, you're not". I ended up the "unstable" one, I ended up the nut case. Then when I told him to sod off, and that I acknowledge I have some issues and I will be treating myself accordingly he now says he wants to help and says it is a "step" for me because of my issues.
Do you make enough at your job where you could rent a room or an apartment near there and use public transit? Uber, taxi, bus, or even walk. Make a plan NOW because he is showing dangerous signs of being ready to walk out on you. If it is just a part time job, start contacting friends and family who would be willing to take you in and then leave your job and stabilize yourself somewhere else. Do not stay in a toxic relationship for a job.