Ugh, yes with a bunch of T’s and they all convinced me it was my fault, my responsibility... blah, blah, blah... now, with a new T I call BS!
New T doesn’t find me hard to work with other than the extent of work we need to do. He honestly seems to feel heartbroken (?) that other T’s gave up on me. He doesn’t let us get stuck, he will invite me out of my comfort zone in different ways until he finds one that I CAN do and then we are moving again! This past session I explained to him “how do I know what concerns you or what you, a healthy person, needs to know to help me when I have never been there?” It clicked! He did not want to push/pressure me into trusting him with something unless I felt safe enough to do it myself, it hadn’t dawned on him I might not know what to trust him with! So he started asking and he found that I was really open with him and actually the more he asked the more I relaxed. We have accomplished more in 7 sessions than in the entire 20+ years I had been in therapy with other T’s.