Soliaree,
I'm sorry to read about your experience. The bottom line sounds like you are hurting immensely. Enough to show it to him in a physical way b/c your words weren't showing it urgently enough. And it sounds like your T wanted to set some strict boundaries and took the risk of losing and hurting you in the process........

I wish i knew the right thing to say, but i have learned that experiences in this arena usually have much less to do with the Therapist than they do with us. What relationship are you repeating here? Are you trying to guarantee that he will reject you?
Can you come clean, tell him your intentions behind it all, your need to feel cared for, special? That is such a normal, human emotion and when we don't get it early on, it's a big, empty, gaping hole to try to fill.

I am in the process of realizing that I keep repeating my past bad relationships at times. Reaching out for attention, sometimes improperly, then being rejected, and falling back into the routine of "I'm too much." After repeated times, I am learning that I will repeat this until I learn how to care for myself and this is hard. Certain actions seem to trigger T's to show their boundaries, to lose the unconditional regard for a moment and it sounds like you touched him in a tender spot.

If you do go thru with the termination, keep talking about it. I try to do this in my T so i won't repeat the same relationship i had with one particular therapist. It feels good to tell my feelings about it and to recognize where i was limited.

I don't agree with the hippo thing at all. It seems cruel that he asked for it back and hurtful. What the :I*^:^%* is the big deal if you have a stuffed animal of his? I wonder if he thought you were using it as reinforcement for him being there in the ER after you harmed yourself and he thinks it's negative attention?

If that was so, he should have explained all of that to you. Sometimes we just have to start over. Keep us posted on how it's going. I hope you feel better and really spend some time caring for yourself........peace