It is PERFECTLY acceptable to go without a bra any time you like!!! I hate wearing a bra...they are awkward and uncomfortable but I was raised like you...that I HAD to wear one by a certain age.

Here's what I think is happening...your mother has bought into partriarchal ideas that girls and women (I don't know how old you are) are sexual creatures no matter what. Therefore, our chests and breasts are sexualized too and must be covered up with a bra. I am assuming that's what your mother was told when she was growing up. You have a right to bodily autonomy which means that if you don't want to wear a bra you don't have to. I take mine off and soon as I get home. A maintenance guy had to come and do some work in my home and I didn't bother to put bra on before he arrived. I just made sure that my top wasn't too thin...because I wouldn't want him to see anything. And that's just me. Each to their own! I also have started going out sometimes without a bra because I think it's healthier...I mean its a band of tight fabric across our ribs...fun times!

If your mother was shaming you and calling you names, that is verbal abuse and not okay. How do you folks get along in general?

Would you mind sharing how old you are? Just so i know the dynamic with your mother. Perhaps I could give you a tip on how to talk it over with her. I would not recommend showing her my post above...it likely won't go over well.