True but society treats rape survivors like it is their fault and is not kind or fair to them, never mind bringing the perpetrator to trial and if you are very very fortunate getting them convicted. I might be crucified for saying this but there is nothing wrong with being mindful of the way some men think, even though that is no excuse to assault or rape anyone. I remember when I was younger on one occasion I was out with a male friend (well he certainly was to me) and (even though I had a bra on) he remarked that he could see one of my nipples protruding through my top, and from his manner of remarking he obviously thought it was a turn on. At that age I was naïve (was about 22) but it never even crossed my mind that men could think that way even then. So I don't blame the OP for being upset and confused by her mum's reaction but I do think her mum was being overprotective, maybe she has had personal experience of sexual harassment and didn't want that to happen to her child? Her response wasn't ideal but her anger or nasty comments might have been just her panicking at the idea of her daughter going through something similar.