How does one get any experiences though?

If we're talking sexual experiences, it seems the only option is random hook-ups with complete strangers and due to the bad experiences I've already had, I absolutely couldn't do that. It would further cement my negative feelings towards sex and I would be afraid it would really traumatize me. I'm not sure if my former experience could be classified as "trauma" but I'd have to at least feel safe with the person first. That can't happen with a stranger.

And with no experiences or connections really, I can't really tell what my identity is or have any connection to it. I guess I'll just always be empty and without a sense of self. I guess I'll always feel like a fraud.