I guess from my perspective, 100% disclosure sounds like having no personal boundaries, which leaves you vulnerable. I definitely think it's ok to keep some things back - but I know it can sometimes be difficult to figure out which things it's actually important to share. However, I think it's possible to feel things out and progress that way. From your posts, it sounds like you do plenty of reflection on your own time, so I bet you could figure out a way forward that wouldn't mean disclosing every little thing. You can always ask yourself what sharing something will accomplish. If you still have a suspicion that maybe you should share something, you can always ask people here. Eventually, you would probably get a good feel for what you would want your personal boundaries to be - and have a better idea of what is actually helpful when shared.