I understand the feelings of not making a connection. My T and I don't always connect during our sessions and that totally puts me in a mood. I know it's not my fault but I'll blame myself for not being open, for not sharing or just for being over protective of myself. Those are the times that I know nothing gets accomplished and that bothers me. It's almost as if 'connection = progress'. After every session, I send an e-mail to my T to critique our session (cuz she always asks me to let her know what I thought of our session), just so we are on the same track and for all those times where I haven't felt a connection - she felt something too. Almost like, the connection doesn't happen if I shut down and in my own way refuse to share. I think it is important to share with your T when you feel that something is amiss... Maybe she wasn't aware of it, or maybe she, unfortunately, had her mind somewhere else - T are human too...