When you said "looks (and hair) was definitely up there," that clearly demonstrated your priorites. Looks first, then personality. With me, it's the reverse. I got the distinct impression you'd choose a man with great hair and a lousy personality, instead of a sweetheart who's bald.

That doesn't make you wrong, though, because that's how the majority of the world thinks. It's all about looks. It doesn't matter how intelligent or kind someone is, if they look like a frog they don't count. And it's especially open season on big people. It's no longer cool to make jokes about people's race, for example, but with us plus size people, we are the last group of people it's still OK to laugh at.