It's a paradox , because I had good therapy I was able to see when the problems and issues were someone else's. How do you get out of that conundrum when you've never experienced good therapy ? There is also the risk in going to another therapist that they say " It can't have been the therapist it must have been you " ( we've seen that ) or we get the reality from good T's who confirm this wasn't OK. But there's no guarantee , so it's quite understandable that people don't risk it.