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Originally Posted by divine1966
Nothing wrong with moving. Alone or with a guy. Nothing wrong wuth meeting families soon and nothing wrong wuth commiting to each other. My husband and I were engaged after 7 months of dating.
But that’s all fine only if there is mutual investment in a relationship and 100% commitment and mutual reliability. If a man isn’t reliable enough, I’d say it’s all just unrealistic day dreaming. People are either reliable or they aren’t.
No one needs to necessarily make quick commitment like marrying in 6 months but people need to be on the same page. Either both commited or both date casually otherwise it won’t work.
If you are committed to waiting how his therapy goes it’s ok but just make sure you don’t put your life on back burner and sit waiting for him.
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You are right, of course. I think he is proving me day after day that he is committed to this, and I am not a random fling. I care much more about his therapy, which I know he does for us, than for flowers, or any empty love words. I think his attempt at making it right is a big love sign.
We both realize we are a really good match. We love doing so many things together. When we talked about the past, about the future, about all these things, we are ridiculously similar, we lived ridiculously similar lives, we went through similar pain. We get each other.
I am not planning on waiting forever. As I said I am not looking too far in the future, but I recognize what he does and that is why I am still with him.
Maybe I am wrong, or maybe this is my lesson for the future. I will find out in time.