I can understand what you are felling.

When I first started working with my counselor, there was a part trapped between a mattress and a wall. It took forever to figure out how to get to that part. I had never heard of “parts” and I had no idea how to get to it.

Journaling was a big part for me. I just replied to another post about how important journaling has been for me to reach out and connect to other parts of me.

I too would reach out to parts that were frozen in bad places and would be overwhelmed with the emotions of that part. It has taken time to learn to reach out and ask, at the same time, that it would not overwhelm me. It helps to go very slow and respect the space of that part. They are afraid of coming out from where they have been and I think sometimes that is a part of what is felt.

You may ask if that part would mind if you just sat with her for a bit. Maybe let her know that there is no pressure for anything and invite her to come closer to you but not overwhelm you. Hear what she would like to share with you when she is ready.

It takes time and patience and I didn’t understand that in the beginning. I think I actually felt pressure to make something happen at the prompting of my counselor. I had to respect her though.

I hope that makes sense. You can pm me or ask more if you would like.