Did the men specifically say that looks had to mean size zero? Why can't look encompass whatever someone is attracted to, whether that be some skinny, someone curvy, someone small, someone big, someone with long hair, someone with short hair? You mentioned you had a fiancee-- I would imagine he finds you physically attractive. I find my husband physically attractive. I'm sure there are women out there who would agree with me, and women out there who wouldn't. When I say that looks are important to me, it doesn't mean the man has to look like a celebrity-- it means that I have a certain type of physical look that I am attracted to and I would like my man (husband) to fit that type-- as well as all the other emotional/intellectual/character/personality stuff.