Anne made some good points

Also i think with your desire for him to meet all your expectations is going to keep coming up as a roadblock. You can't change him. You are not supposed to

He is there to help you. Maybe his ways are not ultimately going to work for you because he can never meet all your expectations for him

He's accepted you as you are, what would it take for you to do the same? If something as small as no reply to a song link bothers you this much, maybe it's time to really consider going forward if he is going to ever be enough for you as a t? Regardless of how attached you feel, you need to think what type of t is best for going forward in your journey for the changes you want. Just stuff to consider

Good luck today