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Originally Posted by Bowdent
Her reason for calling about having a question on taxes felt completely made up as an excuse to talk to me and influence my session with the therapist before I had internalized anything. Like she wanted to make sure that whatever the therapist said was "spun" in the right way so as to not be damaging for her.
Am I crazy? Or does this appear like manipulative behavior to anyone else?
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I don't think you are crazy. I don't know what her intentions are, but I feel that she doesn't respect your boundaries.
There could be several possible reasons for her behavior:
1). Insecurity, suspicion, and fear of abandonment: She may be afraid that you were convinced in a therapy to leave her. Or maybe she is afraid you will bump into someone pretty or interesting, if you are not constantly connecting with her.
2). Excessive attention-seeking/ loneliness. Being alone makes her anxious, maybe (?) Does she feel empty or incomplete without constant contact with you? Does she have a life of her own, like friends, career, hobbies, or volunteering work that she can focus on?
3). Wanting control.
Or there could be a completely different reason for her behavior. Have you asked her to go to a couples counseling with you? Maybe she just wants to be included in your life more (?)