I am sorry ((sisabel)) that you are experiencing this challenge. It sounds like your daughter is using you and she knows you don't approve of her lifestyle and yet she has decided that she is going to continue living this lifestyle which is why she has distanced from you and yet at the same time is using you. The hardest part with your dilemma is that you have a grandchild and I am sure you know your daughter's lifestyle choices are not healthy for her child.

That being said, if your daughter and her husband are drinking too much, which from what you have shared they both make that one of their priorities, you can always make an anonymous call and share your concerns with DCYF. They may even be drinking and driving too, that's dangerous for the child and often when both parents have a drinking problem they do drive drunk. I know someone that actually did this with their young child in the car, got caught more than once and DCYF threatened to take the child away and this person has been involved with getting sober and staying sober knowing there is a risk of losing the child if they don't stay committed. So, DCYF will look into it if someone "even done anonymously files a complaint".