I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, Bowdent I agree with what all the others have already wisely said better than I ever could. She seems VERY controlling and manipulative. I'm so sorry she has done so many things to you. The good news is, you're starting to become aware of it. That's great! Now you can finally start working on it. Keep going to therapy. Hopefully you'll become even more aware of it and of how she's manipulating you. After you get to the bottom of this, you may want to leave her for good. It's clear that she's not doing too much good in your life. We don't need more toxic people in your life. Go to therapy, but don't let her know that you're aware of her manipulation. Lie if you have to. Just try to get away from her, even slowly if you have to. I'm so sorry. It's never easy when we feel betrayed by the people we love. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this