It makes sense: "I value good looks" equals "I devalue not-so-good looks." Elementary logic, to me.

But I'm calmer now, coming back sooner than my promised 24-hour exile, because my fiancé came home from work and was very helpful.

Ironically he had been having the same discussion with some co-workers today, and unlike what I'd experienced here, he and his co-workers all agreed that looks *aren't* all that danged important. The consensus was that people who place such high value on looks are really missing out on some hidden treasures.

Then he cheered me up with an old Harry Belafonte song:

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife.
So from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you.

Which I am going to incorporate now into my signature. When I sort of jokingly suggested we play it at our wedding, he was quick to answer that he doesn't actually consider me ugly. But you know, a lot of people do...

And as for it being the men's forum, and they should say what they want, I feel this way: If we have to watch what we say here, because some man might read it and get his feelings hurt, then it should be the same way in reverse. (See the "just a rant about men" thread, and you'll know what I mean.)