Yes you are correct. They live out of town. I was going to try traveling to see them rather than them come to us but I have not enjoyed the visits. It feels a bit degrading because I feel like a second class citizen. Her H either ignores me like he never heard me or he picks up his phone most of the time when I talk. My daughter is friendly if I just shut up and listen. They clearly do not like me. When they come to my house it is the same except they expect us to feed and entertain them. Her H even wanted us to take him to an expensive restaurant for his birthday and was quite disappointed when all we did was cook him a meal and make him a cake. At least if they are at my house I can sleep in my own comfortable bed and I can save myself the long trip. I don’t know why my daughter is expecting visits every other month now. After years of visits only once... MAYBE twice a year. It wasn’t that long ago that she was ignoring many of my texts and phone calls. I finally cut down on texting or calling or. She still doesn’t call, I have to be the one to call. I think the once or twice a year are easier to handle but originally I was hoping to bond with the baby. I am feeling confused and torn. I honestly don’t want to see my daughter and her H more than once or twice a year. But I worry I will later regret missing so much of the baby’s life.